I have three daughters, ages 11, 13, and 15. Her observations provide valuable insight into the reasons why many confident, well-adjusted girls suddenly become sad and angry. That's not a blaming statement, but just an observation, that girls today are taking an emotional beating at almost every turn, and this book is a call to action. Pipher is a clinical psychologist who has treated girls for more that twenty years. Just a ton of case studies that make you feel like our girls are just doomed to suffer, but if they're lucky enough to have a strong family hopefully they will overcome their suffering by adulthood.
These byes of media encourage self-doubt and insecurity in girls by teaching them to worry about their sexuality, popularity and attractiveness Piper, 2002. Mary Pipher, a psychologist who has worked with teenagers for more than a decade. As society, we are failing to provide a safe, nurturing environment for our children to flourish. I don't know how anyone survives this after reading Pipher's accounts of her patients. There was almost no mention of computers, and no mention of many things that rule teen lives today: cell phones, texting, etc. Pipher, or at least her book, kind of pushes back against my expectations in the sense that she really doesn't over-reach as much as some books from the right and left.
Maybe I'm missing something, but I felt like the book was really balanced in terms of how it approached girls here. A lot of issues with adolescent girls are timeless, right? Blaming this kind of stuff on social trends, does not cut it. Mark sends her a text message that says she doesn't deserve to live. Instead of the former spunk and enthusiasm of girlhood, you see young women who shrink from the public eye, who retreat into depression and other mood disorders, and who give up on their dreams and possibilities. Pipher also echoed my ambivalence about the Haim Ginott school of parenting p. I do have some reservations about the book, though: I thought this book was really really interesting.
The innocent act of attending an unsupervised party can lead to acquaintance rape. These changes have also made it much harder for young women to identify and ultimately get what they need Piper, 1994. She eve My mom gave me this book when I was like 12 or 13. As long as our society continues to view sexuality as a commodity, the media is going to continue to sell sex. As a future psychologist, agree that our children are growing up in a poisonous culture and without intervention; we will all suffer Piper, 1994.
What kind of pressures do teens face when it comes to making choices about sex? Girls and young bowmen feel overly pressured to conform to societies unrealistic expectations Of beauty, sexuality and femininity. I'd rather be a maladjusted junkie slut than live in the midwest with my nice, cool, cryptofascist hard-on for jeezy parents, thanks. As a therapist, Mary Pipher was becoming frustrated with the growing problems among adolescent girls. When I first read this, I was very convinced of the premise--that girls do great as they move forward in elementary school, but sometime between 4th and 8th grade the harsh reality hits them that they are going to be objectified and relegated to second-class status in this male-oriented world. I teach girls to sit with their pain, to listen to it for messages about their lives, to acknowledge and describe it rather than to run from it. Reviving Ophelia is a call to arms from Dr. If you have a daughter, please read this so that maybe she will have a better time of it through your preparedness.
You probably already know what the movie's about, but just in case. The dangers young women face today can jeopardize their futures. I respect Pipher, though, for viewing it as a last resort. She goes mad with grief when her authority figures spurn her, and finally drowns herself in a stream. I don't think it's entirely ridiculous to wonder if the daughters of the women who won liberation in the 1960s paid for their mother's gains via some sort of cultural backlash.
Pipher deals with the cultural impact on girls' psyches in the main, but even parents of boys should take note of the negative impact that their son's can experience as well. Makes a valid point or two but I remember being insulted by this as an adolescent girl. Released 2010, 'Reviving Ophelia' stars , , , The movie has a runtime of about 1 hr 30 min, and received a score of out of 100 on Metacritic, which assembled reviews from well-known critics. Anorexia actually became more of an issue once these ideals of femininity were challenged and, to some extent, rejected by many. As they get older, maybe they put out, or smoke pot.
Thinking I knew what was best for me, as girls do at that age, I continued to resist my mother's consistent pushing me to read this book. I thought divorce was a better option than struggling with a bad marriage. I felt at the time that it was making too much of girls' helplessness and sort of encouraging us to feel sorry for ou This is a biased and thoughtless review, based on vague memories of a cranky adolescent's insensitive snap judgment, so you shouldn't pay any attention to it. Well, probably most girls in therapy which is where her information comes from. It is about the negative effects our culture has on teenage girls too much emphasis on beauty, too much encouragement to be passive in order to please others, etc.